Jan. 15, 2026 - Why Would You Order That!?

I'm at a work luncheon. The restaurant is nice, the food looks amazing! Colleagues are friendly but, most are new acquaintances. I'm a little nervous but, enjoying myself nonetheless. I've ordered something on the healthier side and I'm proud I made a good choice. There was much to choose from on the menu but, I'm looking forward to my entree.

When the food is brought out it becomes very noticeable that I chose a dish quite different from the others at my table. I'm accustomed to this happening and it doesn't concern me at all. Then a lady across the table comments loudly "Why would you order that!?" and most everyone looks over at my dish. I'm embarrassed and caught off guard.

It's easy to construe this as a personal attack. I feel defensive. I want to defend my freedom to choose my own meal, defend my diet and even my personal values. I take a deep breath before I respond.

I've learned a few techniques to help diffuse the situation. I could;

1. State "I just felt like having this tonight." and then change the subject and move on.

   
   

2. With genuine curiosity, ask them, "Why? What did you order? Why did you choose your dish?" Really listen to their response without being defensive. Reassure them, sounds like you made a great choice!

   
   

3. Share a little on why I choose healthier dishes and how long I've been eating this way and how much I enjoy having healthier meals.

It's important to remind myself that their comments are not actually about me. Usually, a strong reaction like this shows they feel insecure about their own food choices. Perhaps they're feeling a bit jealous that I am knowledgeable and focused enough to make healthier choices. Sometimes they're embarrassed, feeling that my order has made them look bad. Often they are trying to justify their own poor food choices.

What would you do in this situation? What would you recommend to those struggling to make healthier choices in front of friends and colleagues? Have you been guilty of calling someone out when they made a healthier choice than you? Would love to hear your comments!